Quote of the day
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” – Mahatma Gandhi
I am grateful for:
This week past, which has seen my husband more relaxed because he’s able to take a breather and us spending time with my in-laws, who are amazing people.
What did I discover new about myself?
I realised that I am so passionate about blogging that I may have just really found my passion, the one path to success via authenticity. For 11 months now (since I started in January), I have worked on my blog practically daily and invested more and more of myself.
It’s a beautiful feeling – knowing your life purpose and knowing too that you are living it, every day of your life.
I also felt a little bit sad now that my in-laws are going back.
When you’re on your own most days, work from home or is a stay-at-home mum, it can get pretty lonely – especially if your friends are in other countries, or mostly online, or in different stages in their lives.
But, as the quote says, it’s not really good-bye, is it?
The people you love, you will always love.
And the people who love you will always love you.
Nothing will change that.
I remember the last time I saw my friends Emily, Tim and Marianka. This was last year, of course, and I miss them terribly but guess what, before that, I hadn’t seen them for 6 years!
Meeting with them again last year, it seemed like nothing had changed.
Though we didn’t have much time together then or since, it’s like no time has passed at all.
Our friendship remained strong and true.
And I’m forever grateful.
In the same way, my in-laws will always be my in-laws and are only a phone call away – even if geographically, they live across the water hundreds of miles away.
What was the best thing that happened to me today?
Discovering that I am where I’ve always been meant to be.
The resistance was real, albeit futile.
And for years since I was in secondary school and I realised that I loved writing, I resisted the idea of becoming a writer.
I knew well how much time and patience, how much of myself writing really required as an investment and I ran around in circles trying to escape my calling.
Now, nearly 20 years later, older, wiser, with a fuller plate than I ever had before, I’ve come full circle – waking up at 4 AM just so I can have uninterrupted writing time. Time I look forward to with great enthusiasm.
I look back at my earlier, slightly juvenile resistance and just smile.
There is no escaping who you really are.
What or who made today unforgettable?
Gabe woke up this morning, 30 minutes before my in-laws were due to depart for home.
I reminded him that they were leaving and he announced that he wanted to come.
How precious that although he hasn’t spent much time with them since we live so far away, he is securely attached to them.
3 amazing things that happened today
1. Self-realisation (see above).
2. I stumbled upon an early year blogging challenge thrown by Cate Rosales. Reasonably priced (very reasonably priced!) at only $30 for a full 4-week stretch of challenges that will help my skills and traffic grow, I discussed this with my husband and decided to go for it. It starts on 2 January and I am beyond excited!
3. I went to our local Tesco for a top-up shop and was able to get enough meals for 3 days. These are really good meals that are seasonal so I saved about £7 on them since it’s past Christmas. I love that we’ll be able to eat amazing meals that won’t cost a fortune.
BONUS: I know I’m only meant to put in three but just as I finished typing the last point, I suddenly remembered another amazing thing that happened. Whilst discussing our budget, my husband started talking about his pension.
And it dawned on me that he’d set things up so that his company would divert a certain amount of his salary to a retirement fund before he got his salary, which means that I’ve been stressing over how little we’ve been saving the past few months when, in fact, we’ve been saving over 10% of his salary!
What a great stress-relief!
How much stress did I experience?
Blogging-wise, it was quite a bit of stress as my traffic took a nosedive.
I had a lot of seasonal content over Christmas, which saw my traffic soar in December.
I even had a mini-viral post.
Unfortunately, I didn’t get much time to publish, or even write, a lot of New Year stuff, which means that now December is over, my seasonal traffic is tapering off.
Major cringe at this lack of planning.
I should have at least 5 New Year posts and 5 Valentine’s Day posts by now.
So, I ended up participating in more sharing threads (FB) than usual – not the best way to spend my precious blogging hours.
But what else can you do when you’re scrambling?
On the upside, this is how I found Cate Rosales’ challenge (mentioned above), which is a heck of a silver lining, I think. 🙂
Did I do something that was out my comfort zone?
Yes, I started asking people I know – family and friends – to share my posts.
I’ll be doing more of that today.
How could I have made today better?
I could’ve asked more people to help me spread the word about my blog.
As it is, the minuscule number I approached today already made me jittery.
Tomorrow, I’ll ask more and strive to remember that people absolutely love to help.